Today, we bring you some ways or signs to tell feelings of infatuation versus love.
Falling in love with someone is a wonderful, intense experience. We sing about it, write about it, and watch movies about it. Love affects us mentally, emotionally, and physically.
However, signs you’re in love are not always so obvious. You find yourself wondering if you’re really in love or just infatuated and overwhelmed by feelings of lust. You think you might be in love, but you’re not quite sure if this is what love should feel like, or you’re worried that you’re just making it all up in your head. The difference between love and Infatuation is that Infatuation is a short-lived passion, whereas Love is a deep affection that lasts. However, infatuation and lust are powerful feelings that can make you think you are in love.
Now, let’s get to know, here are signs of infatuation versus love.
This is part one of a two-part piece. We will bring you part two subsequently.
- You’ve only known each other for a short time.
If you’ve only known this person for a short time, then it’s probably infatuation. Now, you may feel attached to them, but if you haven’t taken the time to develop an intimate connection, then that attachment is coming from being infatuated and not real love. True love takes time to develop. It takes intimacy which requires a connection or attachment to someone. Love is about being familiar with someone where a bond has been developed.
2. You put them high above you.
It’s common to put someone you’re infatuated with on a pedestal. In short, you make them out to be something they are not. You see their strengths, their perfections, and their positive attributes but you are blind to see their weaknesses, imperfections, and negative attributes. If all you can see is perfection in them then it’s a sign of infatuation rather than love. Nobody is perfect, no matter how much it seems that way. Every one of us has faults and makes mistakes. It can get a bit annoying to others from time to time. When you truly love someone, you can see them for who they are, the good and the bad, and love them anyway.
- You are in love with superficial things.
If you love the way they look, that’s a sign of infatuation. The truth is you don’t connect to the superficial things in a person, you o the internal things such as how they feel, what they believe, what their hopes and dreams are, and how they treat other people. If you know them on a deeply personal level and appreciate those things. That is love.
- You can’t wait to take the next step. Infatuation is all about making things happen. Now, you want them to love you and commit to you and be your only because you’re scared that you’re going to lose them if they do. But love doesn’t work that way. Love takes time to build and if you’re in love with someone you enjoy the process of getting to know them and building your relationship with them one step at a time.
- You get jealous.
If someone talks to the person you are with, you become instantly jealous. You want to show everyone including them that they are yours. Well, jealousy is a sign of infatuation, not love. Real love is about feeling connected with a person in a way that doesn’t make you feel like you’re in a state of losing them to someone else. It is a confident feeling that you are specially bound to them and that they are so fond of you that they view you differently from other people.
To be continued…