Here is the concluding part of the piece we began yesterday, October 12th.
- You’re obsessed over them leaving you.
If they forget to call, you wonder if you did something wrong and if it will affect your relationship negatively. If they’re not feeling good, and they’ll look at you the same way they normally do you question if they’re gonna leave you forever. These intense feelings can make you think you love them so much you don’t want to lose them. But really, you’re just being insecure. Love is confident. You feel secure in your relationship and understand that they have ups and downs and we forget to do things once in a while. You don’t panic at the first sign of a frown or forgotten phone call because you know that you have a bond that isn’t going to break so easily.
- You expect perfection.
When you’re infatuated with someone, you create unrealistic expectations about how they should act and how the relationship should go. When you are in love you accept that things can go wrong, and you work on making them better. That downtimes are how you learn to interact with each other in a compromising way. The downtimes teach you that you are human and so is your partner and that you are capable of working together to develop a happier and healthier relationship.
- You feel tired all the time.
Being infatuated with someone is draining. You’re constantly worried about what they think, you’re obsessed over what they’re doing and whether or not they’re as obsessed as you are.
You think about them, dream about them, worry about them, and cry over the stress when things are not going well. Love doesn’t drain your energy like that. It gives you energy. That’s because you’re in a higher energy state which makes you feel great.
9., You’ve lost interest suddenly
if you’ve lost interest in someone, it can be hard to figure out what’s going on. But there’s a really simple explanation. The infatuation you felt for them is gone and it’s been replaced by a loss of interest. Remember, lust is a powerful feeling that is short-lived, whereas love is a deep connection that stands the test of time. If you don’t feel that connection anymore, then you are not in love, to begin with. And you have also fallen out of infatuation.
10. You feel disconnected and alone.
Infatuation is about wanting to be connected to someone but when tough times arise, you quickly become aware of how disconnected you are from them. You crave their attention or concern. When you are in love you have a deep connection. You work through issues both in your relationship and in your individual lives. Together you never feel alone because you know the person loves you and will always be there for you.
Now, note that the phase of infatuation bears some element of faithfulness, loyalty, intense affection, and the will to sacrifice. It may blossom into unconditional real love, something that we all want.