Today, we take you some very important things that are best or better kept private.
Although there is a big difference between being secretive and oversharing. Some things in life are just better kept private. And well not everybody can keep things under wraps. Those who do are typically viewed as more trustworthy and well-mannered.
Sharing too much can lead to awkwardness or envy. And it can even lead to hurt feelings. So if you want to avoid such pitfalls, in most cases, it’s best to keep the following things private.
Below are some of the things that should be kept private.
- Your personal finances.
Have you ever been out and about and overheard a person telling someone else that they’re completely broke? Or perhaps the opposite, where they flaunted an inheritance they just collected. Some people have it better than others, but either way, personal finances are best kept private. Just think about it, it’s an area we know not to ask others about right? So then why disclose this yourself? Besides, if you happen to earn more than your family, friends, or coworkers, they may become resentful, or worse, try to take advantage of you. Unless you’re getting married, applying for a loan, or buying a new car, your personal finances really should not be a topic of discussion.
- Details of your love life.
The intimate details of your romantic relationship are best kept between you and your partner. Whether you’re having the time of your life or experiencing intimate problems, it’s not a proper conversation to have with others. Recounting the specifics of your love life not only gives people a visual they didn’t ask for but also generates awkwardness between you and others. Plus, it invites them to give their opinions where it’s not wanted. If anything seems out of the ordinary it’s always best to ask your physician or sex therapist instead of discussing your intimate details with everyone you talked to.
- Your next move.
In some situations, being intentional and telling people what you’re doing can be a form of accountability, such as when you start a new fitness program, but it’s not always in your best interest. Whether you’re planning to leave your company for a better offer, planning to start a business, or deciding to get a divorce, it’s best to keep your future plans under wraps. If you’re in the early stages of something, keep it to yourself while things get worked out. It will help avoid unnecessary gossip. If there are people who enjoy making mountains out of molehills, let people see your life unfold without you informing them of every development. When you tell them, they might feel like it’s okay to give you opinions. And when you take too many people’s opinions, you can end up with advice that perhaps isn’t in your best interest.
- Details of your medical conditions.
Unless you’re discussing details with your doctor or insurance provider, it’s best to remain discreet about your health problems. Yes, there is a feeling of camaraderie when you meet someone with the same condition as you and it feels good to have someone who understands the problems that come with it. However, it’s easy to develop a victim mentality which can make you come across as though you’re looking for others to feel sorry for you. And aside from putting you in that light. It also becomes rather uncomfortable for people to hear the details of an illness or disease. If it has a considerable impact on your day-to-day life, it’s best to share on a need-to-know basis with your employer, spouse, and family. But other than that, the details of your medical conditions are best kept private.
- Problems in close relationships.
What might be a real problem to you could quickly become gossip for others. And you don’t want to give anyone that opportunity. No relationship is perfect. We sometimes fight with our partners and have conflicts with our parents. friendships can go through rough patches, but you should watch what you’re venting to when you’re vulnerable because you can end up disclosing information that you probably shouldn’t. I mean, how would you feel if someone went and shared details about a relationship problem you’re going through? You would likely feel awkward, uncomfortable, and perhaps even embarrassed. So why put someone else in that position?
- Anything confidential?
Have you ever trusted someone with a secret only for them to go and blurt it out? It’s never okay to betray a person’s trust like that. So it goes without saying that if someone specifically asks you not to share something, you shouldn’t. Even if you think it’s okay to share something with your best friend or spouse, not everything needs to be discussed, especially when it concerns a third party and doesn’t affect either of you. Similarly, if you are told you legally cannot discuss something, you shouldn’t reveal it to anybody, no matter how close they are to you. By doing so you put all concerned parties in an uncomfortable position. And in some cases in a messy situation and there’s no going back after that. So if you made a promise to keep something confidential, do it.
- Personal therapy sessions.
More and more people discuss or post on social media about advice given by therapists.
It certainly signals a shift in our perception of mental health. We’re more open and honest about seeking help. Conversations around depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues have become more optimistic. That said, therapy is something incredibly private. It requires you to dig deep within yourself to find hard truths and the root of your problems. And there’s no need to disclose your most personal issues to everyone. Sometimes you might bring up a topic that’s triggering to someone. Other times you might burden them with your problems when they have their issues. Besides doing so, it’s not only impolite it also comes across as selfish. Well, it’s nice to have supportive people in your life who understand what you’re going through. It doesn’t mean they have to know every detail about everything. This is why you would see a therapist in the first place.